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Grandma Becky

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My gorgeous granddaughter
Today is my granddaughter's 4th birthday.  Yes, you read that right, my granddaughter.  It's so very weird to be a grandmother, and have four teens under 18 still living in my home.  It's like two generations colliding!  No, my granddaughter does not belong to one of my teens (ptl, and over my dead body). She is the daughter of our oldest son and his wife (who also have our grandson, who will be 3 in February).  Technically, she's my step-granddaughter, but I think that's ridiculous to say, so we don't.

Becoming a grandmother at 43 was surreal to me, but as soon as I held the precious bundle, any weirdness and awkwardness disappeared.  I truly understood why grandparents have a feeling that they can't quite describe.  Since I became a grandmother, many of my friends from high school have had the pleasure as well.  It's like a private, exclusive club with a membership what should be coveted, well, when the time is right!  ;)

"S" and me, December 3, 2010
I tried to think of all kinds of cutesy "grandmother" names for them to call me, but after all that work, I just like being traditional, and "Grandma" is my name.  I honestly wouldn't care if they called me "Old Hag," as long as it's out of love!

I had a set of wonderful maternal grandparents, and a sweet-as-pie paternal grandmother.  My paternal grandfather was a bad man, however, so I will gloss over him.  I also had some wonderful
Maternal grandma, grandpa, mom, and
me (in the front).  Grandpa holding
my baby sister
step-grandparents, so I was pretty fortunate in that matter.  Unfortunately for my children, my ex's and my parents died in their 60's, so my kids have no biological grandparents left.  I can't believe how sad that is for them.  As with me, however, they have a great set of step-grandparents, who stepped up without question and treat my children like their own.  I love them for that.

Times have changed, however, since I was a child.  I visited my grandparents a few times a month, if not more. We rarely see our grandchildren, and they only live about an hour away.  This is partly our fault, and partly theirs.  Unfortunately for us, the grandkids are very close to their maternal grandparents, both figuratively and literally.  This makes it hard for us to have the same bond with them.  Also, our son and daughter in law work crazy hours, so them bringing the kids over just doesn't happen.  It makes me sad, but right now, they are circumstances we can't control.  It truly hurts my heart, though.

Sorry this turned out so "journal-ly", but that's partly the purpose of my blog.

Hey. At least I didn't get run over by a reindeer...yet... ;)

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In the Beginning

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It's been a long time since I started blogging.  I'm doing this mostly to become a better writer, and to hone my writing skills.  I also have a lot of funny and exasperating experiences being a mother of 6 children, so I want to document as much of that as I can.  At present, all four of my youngest children are in high school.  J is a freshman, A & D are sophomores, and C is a junior.  If the Lord is willing and the creek don't rise, C will graduate next year.  Getting him through high school is comparable to pulling a tyrannosaurus rex through quick sand.  Yesterday he even said "Hey Mom, at least I'm only failing 3 classes now instead of 4 !"  We're told to celebrate the little moments, right?  How little is little?

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Currently, I spend my time sleeping during the day, and watching TV and keeping myself entertained
at night while everyone sleeps.  Sometimes I think it's the comfort of having them all home that makes me feel more productive.  In less than 4 years, most of them will be gone.  I can't honestly say if I'll be thrilled or sad that our house, which has been chaotic and loud since 2002, will be quiet. Then again, the lack of ambition in most of the kids may result in them living here for much longer than I anticipate.  At least then they will be working, and can worry about themselves.  Still, I've been a mom with kids at home since 1988.  26 years.  I don't know much else.

In less than a month, it will be 3 years since I lost my mom to cholangiocarcinoma (bile duct cancer). I documented it here. There seriously isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about her.  In all essences, I'm glad she is relieved of all her ailments.  She never really was very healthy after her 40's.  Even if the cancer hadn't killed her, I think something else would have.  She had also become very anxious, and was afraid to leave her comfort zone, mostly her home.  Again, I think that eventually, something along those lines would have taken her.  Still, it's hard to be without a mother.  I miss my dad (who died suddenly in 2001), but dads are different, I suppose.  I got to spend a lot more time with my dad, since he raised us, mostly.

I'm going to end for tonight/this morning.  Welcome to my blog, I guess.  :)


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